Rebuild connection. Restore trust. Rediscover intimacy.
Professional relationship counselling for individuals and couples in Brighton & Hove and online.
When communication falters or closeness fades, counselling offers a steady, supportive space to understand what’s gone wrong and how to begin again.
When You’re Feeling Disconnected
You may recognise yourself in one or more of these:
- Drifting away from your partner and not sure how to find your way back
- Caught in the same arguments or patterns, even when you both want change
- Feeling alone, anxious, or stuck around intimacy and trust
Counselling creates the space to slow down, make sense of what’s happening, and start to rebuild connection with yourself and those you love.
“I have witnessed people develop and change their lives through committing to therapy and this has often rippled out to those around them creating better relationships and family dynamics.”
Selwyn Warren
Counselling – Who Needs It?
The Services I Offer
I started my journey with Selwyn in December 2024.
I was in a dark place when we started but through the coming months Selwyn listened and didn’t judge or give advice.
He would try and see if there was another way of which I could think of the things. He made me stop and think and this is what I needed.
Overall Selwyn is very good at what he does. If I could give a rating out of 5 then I would give him 5.
How Counselling Helps
At Vital Intimacy, I work collaboratively with you to bring understanding, self‑awareness, and practical change into your relationships.
My approach is calm, attentive, and based on evidence‑informed therapeutic methods.
Together, we explore:
- Communication and trust
- Emotional balance and boundaries
- Healing from past hurts or betrayals
- Reconnecting with closeness and authenticity
Sessions are available in person in Brighton & Hove and online.
About Selwyn
I’m a qualified counsellor with specialist experience in relationship and intimacy work, as well as in sex and love addiction recovery.
My background combines professional training with many years of therapeutic practice supporting people to create meaningful, resilient relationships.
Find out more about my background and approach here.
Take the First Step
The first conversation helps you decide if counselling feels right for you.
There’s no pressure – just an open, confidential space to talk about what’s going on and what you’re hoping for.
Resources
Shadow Work in Therapy: Why Facing the Darkness Heals Relationships, Addiction, and Shame
When I talk with clients about shadow work, I often see a mix of curiosity and hesitation. On some level, we all know there are parts of ourselves we’d rather not face - the anger we suppress, the shame we carry, the needs we’ve been taught are “too much.” These...
How Trauma Impacts Intimacy and Relationships
Intimacy is something many of us long for - closeness, trust, and connection with another person. But for those who have experienced trauma, intimacy can feel confusing, overwhelming, or even unsafe. Past wounds often live not only in our minds but also in our bodies,...
Bursting the Shame Bubble
Shame - it’s something that affects many of us. I’m not talking about the feelings one get after having a few too many the night before and feeling like you may or may not have said something wrong. That’s guilt which is also shit but in my experience doesn’t...